I unabashedly loved Dear Zindagi. It’s a true measure of my love of my family that I didn’t see Dear Zindagi the day it came out in the US due to our Thanksgiving holiday travels. I have been looking forward to this movie for some time, hoping it would live up to my sky high expectations, and it did. I have yet to see director Gauri Shinde’s feature film debut English Vinglish, which evidently deservedly garnered accolades. (I actually downloaded English Vinglish to watch on my trip but the subtitles were in Arabic. ARGH!)
I’m not saying a male director can’t tell the story of a woman, but there’s a different special perspective a woman writer/director brings to a film. Alia Bhatt’s Kaira (Koko) is allowed to be a complex young cinematographer who is troubled, and frankly, sometimes unlikeable. She is no manic pixie dream girl for anyone. And that is just refreshing to see in itself. The film totally passes the Bechdel test! Kaira has a tight knit group of friends who she can be totally herself with, but a tense awkward relationship with her parents.
She has a working and romantic relationship with producer Kunal Kapoor. He offers her a dream job directing her first feature film in NYC, but admits his ex-girlfriend will also be working on the project. He wants to make his relationship with Kaira more serious, but she demurs. Then she can’t sleep thinking about her quandary — should she go to New York even though it will be incredibly awkward?
Kunal is one of 4 men in her life in this movie (not including SRK). There’s Sid, the handsome restaurant owner (Angad Bedi) and Rumi (Ali Zafar), a charming musician she meets when she returns to her hometown of Goa. She has to go back to Goa because her landlord in Mumbai makes her move out because she’s a single woman. And he’s not the only one harassing her for being single, once she gets home she is barraged by her parents and her aunt and uncle for continuing to work, and not settling down.
She happens to overhear SRK speaking at a therapist conference and goes to see him. If only all therapists looked like Shahrukh Khan. When through several sessions, they get to the root of her insecurities, I was crying right along with Alia. She is just fantastic in this film. She has this quality about her that reveals her vulnerability and she sucks me right in. It’s hard to believe how far she’s come as an actress since Student of the Year. Highway was my first glimpse and then this year she was devastating in Udta Punjab. I can’t wait to see her work in the future.
Some reviewers have questioned the epilogue at the end of the film, but I liked it. As suspected, Aditya Roy Kapoor is the final cameo man in her life. I liked that the movie left us at a hopeful point — that she’s moved on and is ready for new possibilities. I like that kind of ending in my romance novels, and I liked it here.
Shahrukh Khan is fantastic in this as her therapist and mentor. He has unorthodox methods, like playing Kabbadi with the surf on the beach outside his office. But best of all is his message to young girls through the words he says to Kaira (Alia). She thinks everyone thinks she’s a slut because she’s had relationships with more than one man. SRK asks her if she’s ever bought a chair. “Did you buy the first one you saw without trying it out?” as he pops from chair to chair in his office. He gives her permission to live her life without worrying so much what “everyone” else thinks.
The music in the film didn’t send me, but the title track is decent. It’s not that kind of movie. There’s mostly montage type song sequences. Really this is sort of a bridge film between Parallel type cinema (The Lunch Box, etc.) and mainstream Hindi fare.
I’m glad Kaira found support with her Dr. Jehangir Khan, and that director Gauri Shinde has backing from producers SRK (Red Chilies) and Karan Johar (Dharma). She’s a great talent. Loved this film, and already have plans to see it again in a few days. I’m taking some friends who don’t even watch Bollywood films. This is a great crossover type of film.